Thread: scared of being picked up

A month is a very short time for a cat with her background to fully accept you, in my experience. We took in a stray MC mix several years ago, who had been living wild outside for more than a year. While he would early on do things like cuddle in bed at night, he was generally very leery of many things for the better part of a the first year, and would occasionally revert to nearly feral behavior. We also adopted a retiree, and I would say it was again about a year before we felt like she was truly our cat. She did not want us picking her up and clearly did not completely trust us for ages. Our experience has also been that some MCs like being picked up and others do not much. Right now it is half and half: one boy and one girl like being held, and one boy and one girl do not much (you can do it only briefly). So my advice is simply to give her lots of love and try to be patient (though I know this is difficult when you love them). It may take even a year, but eventually I am sure she will bond with you completely; both of the two I mentioned certainly bonded completely with us.