Thread: Not very affectionate

give it time - I know 9 months seems like a lot of time, but mine is 3 years old and started getting affectionate at around 2 and a half - and then again it has to be in her own terms for now. Talk to them, get them used to being brushed and picked up - mine likes to be picked up and carried on the shoulder, "fireman style" for some reason... which is handy given her size... - do you sit down and watch tv or read a lot? if so, when you do, have a blanket that is their special blanket. Mine hates fleece, I think the static stings her every time, so if she sees a fleece jumper or anything fleece-like she just won't come. I have a wool blanket that I cover myself with to watch tv when it's a bit cold, now that's the business. If she sees it, she'll wait impatiently for me to place it properly on my lap (well, sometimes ... ) and then boom she's there. She hates when I build fire - I don't know what's with that, when I build the fire she meows and tries to attract me away from the chimney... - but she loves it when there is a good fire in the chiminey, so if there's one, and I'm lying on the couch watching tv, she'll be there too. Since I started talking to her and playing with her, I'm bonding more with her now also - she'll come more and more often for cuddles... - In other words, she's not ALWAYS affectionate, but she's getting there.