Thread: Discipline: What works, what doesn't

I am not sure what worked with Neevie, I tried a lot of thing, if you remember we had lots of issues, with her jumping on my head or biting my leg or being generally territorial... but it seems she started improving when I put my mind to talking to her all the time, and kind of forcing her to cuddle from time to time - and also showing her that I understand what she wants even though she's not biting my leg to get it... and now I'm also making a point to play with her twice a day (if she's up to it) before and after work. Before, I was kind of letting her to her own device, just cuddling when she came to me, not really talking to her much and really being lazy to play with her much. Also, now, time outs are happening as soon as she is showing a bit of impatience/frustration, even if she doesn't get to the biting part. I know it will come, so rather than letting her be boss and have her way, I calmly pick her up, giver her a quick cuddle and talk to her nicely (usually she's not happy about that bit) and leave her to sulk where I'm not for a bit. I open the door when she asks for it, and then she's forgotten all about the crabbiness and is ready for a nice long cuddle. I tell you, time outs are getting fewer and farther between...
Now my father-in-law is here for a few weeks - that's why I haven't written for a while - a big guy - she's not allowing him to touch her - there has been one instance where he's had a good hiss-and-glare treatment - but she hasn't misbehaved at all otherwise. He is not making a fuss, he's tried a couple of times to get to her, but I don't think he knows how to get friendly with cats, he's a dog person, so he approaches her slowly slowly, but he's kind of on the large side, so might appear threatening to her - he gives her his hand to smell, and sure enough she takes one look at it, gives a plaintive meooowww and runs away :-D PIRATE!